My awesome friend Christine posted this quote on facebook quite a while ago, and I saved it because it really resonated with me.
"Who are we, if not measured by our impact on others? That's who we are! We're not who we say we are, we're not who we want to be-- we are the sum of the influence and impact that we have, in our lives, on others." -- Carl Sagan
I love that so much. I need to re-read it from time to time.
Sometimes I read obituaries or similar things where people say that the person never had a bad word to say about anyone, and it always makes me feel so bad about myself, because that will never be me. It's not that I like to badmouth everyone... more just that if someone annoys me, it's a definite possibility that I'm going to say something at some point. For the most part, I like people. I'm easily annoyed sometimes, but I don't hold a grudge or spread untrue rumors or unfounded assumptions about people or things like that... but if for example my neighbors burn my grass and leave their garbage all over their driveway and it blows into my yard and their kids tell me that their dog got onto the counter and ate the cinnamon bread from Kneaders that I gave them for Christmas and I drive their kids home from school and sometimes go out of my way to take them when it's snowing and their mom refuses to get out of bed and drive them and they can't even say "thanks" or even "hi" and they for who-knows-why have a cooler on their porch that my kids tell me is full of spoiled milk and I come home and see that they drained it onto my grass... and then my other neighbor asks me how it is living next door to them... I'm going to say that I hate it. I just am. I'm not going to go out of my way looking to tell the stories to all the neighbors or call people up every time something happens, but if someone asks me about them, I will probably say something. For example.
Lexi: Can I have an apple for my snack?
Me: Sure!
Lexi: Can I dip it in whipped cream?
Me: No. We don't have any, but still, no.
Lexi: Oh, wait then. I don't want that anymore.
Me: Ohhhh... so you only wanted it if you could dip it in sugar?
Lexi: Can that be a thing???
I've been doing this whole work-and-mom thing for over 21 years now, and I'm just tired. So tired. So. Damn. Tired. :::sigh::: I hate when my kids are off track. I wish I could enjoy the time with them. They go back Tuesday.
Josh started with a tutor last week. I hope it will help. I love his tutor. I found a parkour/free running class for him, and he's going to try a class and see if he likes it. Will I regret this? If he likes it, yes, I probably will. I don't know. He needs an activity and he can't think of anything he wants to do besides golf. So I'm trying to come up with something indoor, and that was it. He also wants to try a hip-hop dance class, but I can't find a good boys' class around here.
I had a debate tournament Friday and Saturday. That always makes for a short weekend, but thankfully Monday is a holiday.
My principal called me Friday night at 9:15 all, "Sorry to call you on a Friday night..." Um, yeah dude, I'm at a debate tournament and not going to be leaving for a few minutes yet, another hour ride home, then standing around waiting for parents to pick up their kids... Pretty sure you're not interrupting my fun or anything. Then he said, "Enjoy your long weekend." Most of the time I don't mind that no one really knows what we do and when our tournaments are and how much time we spend at it in debate, and my principal is super awesome times 10 and asks me how our team is doing and he does know it's a huge time commitment... but sometimes I just sigh and think... if only people understood. Maybe I could get paid more than $1/hour for it. Probably not. A former debate student from one of the other schools who now comes to tournaments to judge was saying to some of us that maybe if a former student who is now involved on the other end of things as well were to go in and talk about the time and energy involved in running a debate program, maybe they'd understand and pay us more. Offering to go to the district and talk to them. And we all just shook our heads. Pay isn't decided that way, and no one cares. Really. My mom and I were talking about something debate-related and she said, "You need to go in and explain to them that if they want you to host a debate tournament they need to do XYZ," and I said, "They don't care. If I don't host another tournament ever, no one would care." We do it for these kids. That's it, front and back, top to bottom. It's done by us, for the kids. When I hosted the one earlier this year, teachers be all, "What, you need to use my room? Can't you just use a different one?" We need 63 classrooms for this thing! No, we can't just find another room. We're holding debates in the Little Theater and the Foods room amongst the ovens. The transportation department, who I'm sure has a crazy job to do, will screw up the buses sometimes, and I'm sure if there's a hierarchy of who gets a bus when there's a problem, Debate gets the shaft. One of the high schools around here had their bus not show up, and when they called dispatch they were told that they couldn't go because there wasn't a bus for them. The coach told them... um, no. I put in a proper request 3 weeks ago, it was approved, you're sending me a bus. Would you tell the football team... sorry, there's no bus, guess you can't go. He did get his bus, but he was late.
The reason my principal was calling me Friday night was to make sure I knew about a district meeting on Tuesday at 8:00. That's a teacher prep day and I was hoping to get some actual planning done for a change, instead of dealing with bureaucratic bullshiz and other assorted crap that doesn't have anything to do with teaching, but it is probably not to be.
I didn't realize I was so ranty tonight. What's wrong with me?
From here on out I have tournaments every weekend until the middle of March. We have 3 more tournaments, then Region, all the National Qualifiers, and State. Then I will need a vacation.
The Broncos won today. Time to start planning a Super Bowl menu. Football is the
only good thing about January. I don't know how people who don't like to watch football make it through this awful month.
Friday was the end of the term. End of the term is craziness. Luckily all my grading is done, except for the term paper re-do's I told the students they could drop off on Tuesday. That won't take too long.
I have an obsession with Eric Church. My family just rolls their eyes at me. I
will be going to see him in concert this year. If he doesn't come here, I will be taking a road trip.
I've been shopping for land. I found places I want in both Kentucky and Montana. Now to just convince Sean that we should do it. He was asking me yesterday what I would buy if I could buy anything, probably thinking I would say a KitchenAid or a new couch or clothes or a cruise... I told him that I want a house on 60 acres, a big outbuilding where I can store my '57 Corvette, 2 cows, 2 horses, 4 chickens, a tractor, a garden, a big floppy hat, a shirt with UV protectant sleeves, and a front porch with a wooden rocking chair. You think I've thought this through a little bit? Josh said I sound like a grandma.
I never posted about Christmas because I lost my camera. I think maybe it's at mom's house. We had nice holidays. Courtney and Curtis spent the night on Christmas Eve, and that was fun. We went to Hardware Ranch the following Saturday, and that was fun too. Pictures will be forthcoming at some point in the year.